I have to say first off for all of you who had wonderful posts on your valentines day adventure's, I think it is very sweet and I enjoy hearing about every one's sweethearts. With that being said, Valentines Day in my home is never that nifty. Of course I love my husband, and he is really good to me, but, after 7 years of marriage, He STILL has never gotten the hint to at least write me a love note or something? O.K. so before you start thinking how mean that sounds, I have to say that we obviously grew up different. I saw my dad doing the thoughtful flowers ( For his daughters too) and card, and all that stuff. Vita never remembers his parents showing any real affection, let alone Valentines Day. Old School Tongans aren't known for being affectionate in any way. (with some exeptions of couse!)
Our Valentine funk started when we were engaged. We were in Oakland, and his cousins had one of those Valentine stands on the street courners. We stopped by to say hi, and they proceeded to ask vita what he was going to get me for Valentine's day. ( I had already given him his card...and whatever else) He just had a look like: Oh do I have to do that? So he full on asked his mom for money right in front of me, and bought me a lame flower or something. O.K. so you may be thinking, " How did he win her over in the frst place?" Believe it or not, Vita can be very romantic. Most of our real courtship was long distance and he used to write me beautiful poems, and remind me that I was loved. He always put
s the Lord first, and I admire that about him. He praises me often, and makes me feel beautiful. He is very helpful around the house, and does way more than most husbands would. He just seems to have problems with being expected to do something sweet. But, you know what? I am over the excuses.
s the Lord first, and I admire that about him. He praises me often, and makes me feel beautiful. He is very helpful around the house, and does way more than most husbands would. He just seems to have problems with being expected to do something sweet. But, you know what? I am over the excuses. YES my husband worked a 12 hour shift today, and he left at 3:40 am, returned at 7: 30 pm. YES that is 16 hours.
YES he did try to go to the store and buy me something.
YES he forgot his wallet in his locker so he couldn't.
YES he waited till the last min.
YES he came home, and felt guilty when he saw my dinner, treats and card for him.
YES he did tell me I looked beautiful and give me a sweet kiss.
YES he did get irritated when he saw I was a little disapointed with his empty hands.
YES he did appreciate my efforts and tell me he was sorry for procratinating.
BUT THE QUESTION IS...
Will it matter?
Will he magically next year change his ways, and have a beautiful romantic LOVE letter waiting on the counter for me when I wake Up? (Yes that is all I want from him)
Will he put in any effort to Valentines Day just because it's Valentines Day?
We will see. I'll let you know next year :)
All I know is that as I sit here on my bed, and type this, next to my exausted, sleeping husband, I know that this man loves me unconditionally. I know he finds me attractive. I know he loves this little life we have made for ourselves. I know he will always do what it takes to provide for his family. I know that he loves the Lord.
So even though I was disapointed with his lack of effort into Valentines Day...yet again... I will appreciate the things that he does daily to make me feel loved, and forgive him for leaving me empty handed of today's happenings.
3 comments:
I so relate with how you are feeling. I can echo all of your frustrations and sentiments. JP is not romantic either, and the valentines we had yesterday was because I planned it, I called the sitter, I even got the manager to give us our dinner for free because my husband would never open his mouth to ask. I totally get it Jenna. Will they change? never. JP will never be romantic like I want him to be. I try to do for him what I wish he would do for me, but his promises that next year will be different are forgotten the following day. So sorry!
Oh Jenna, I know too know how that can go. The only reason Tim usually does anything for Valentine's now is because I remind him like 10 times! Oh, and this year he decided that he wasn't going to give me anything on Valentine's Day itself because he had to work all day, but we would just pretend it was Valentine's four days later on his first day off. Better late than never I guess. :-) Our hubbies do love us, though... in their own not always so romantic ways. :-)
I love you Jenna!
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